Improving Our Relationships

We live in a world where everything is increasingly speeding up. Technology has developed surprisingly much in the late years. In 1946 J. Presper Eckert finished his first computer, which occupied an entire room and weighted about 50 tones. Nowadays we have the tiny laptops! The information flows with the speed of the light, and if we know what we are searching for and have the Internet at hand, we can find out about everything. We can speak with everyone at anytime and anyplace and still we don't have time to truly know each other. Lots of people get depressed because their relationships problems. We need to interact with each other. We can't enjoy life without the laughter of a good friend, without the smile of a dear one, without the helpful advises of a loving parent. It isn't any wonder that when we quarrel we begin to feel guilty, unsafe, abandoned. Here are some tips that are the basis of a healthy relationship which help improve a problematic relationship.

Sincerity
Without sincerity there can't be any connection between two people. Honesty is the ground of a true and profound relationship. People tend to believe that if they hide an unpleasant thing about them or about what they did; things are going to be fine. The truth is that we can't hide forever, and when the lie is discovered, for good reason, we lose all our credibility. Being honest with the other will lead to a strong and long term relationship.

Trust
Mostly, trust it is gained in time, when we have concluded that the other person is sincere, honest. When people are trusted for what they are, they become more comfortable, more natural in the way they interact. Being trusted increases our capabilities. A good and representative example is the example of a child who is encouraged by the teacher. Expressions like "I know you can do it"are very powerful in difficult situations and would be welcomed if they are said at the time needed. A common mistake in relationships is doubt. An efficient solution for doubt would be renouncing at the assumptions we make about the respective person and ask.

No Prejudices
From the first second we meet someone new we form a set of prejudices. It is natural to do so, but very often our judgments can be wrong because we don't have enough information about that person. The first step to verify our judgment is to be aware that we make judgments. The second is simply putting questions, being the easier way to find out the truth.

Compassion
People manage better difficulties when they know they are not alone. Feeling with the other will make the relation more profound.

Creativity
People get to know each other better by doing interesting things together. Making a trip, playing a new game, learning a new language together or playing an instrument, are effective ways to have fun together.

Humor
Humor always enlightens a relationship. Making fun of embarrassing situations helps us overcome them more easily.

Respect
Most quarrels start due to a lack of respect between people. But the key to be respected is to respect. We should offer respect to everyone, even if we consider that a specific person doesn't deserve our respect. The main reason for why we should respect each other is that we are all humans, with feelings, superior intellect and superior needs.

Managing Anger
From time to time we all feel angry, and anger makes us speak hurtful words that can cause deep wounds. There are some things that could help us manage our anger: being aware of our friend's problem makes us feel sorry for him, putting ourselves in the his/her shoes, making our best to understand why the person acted that way. This may take some time, so, the most suitable solution in an anger crisis is to keep our mouths shut for at least ten seconds, maybe then the anger will disappear.

Patience
Without patience with each other there is no such thing as good understanding, and the people feel stressed. Patience is a great way to manage anger.

Love
Love is the essential key in a relationship. Without love we cannot truly reach the other helpful keys (sincerity, respect, patience, compassion, trust and so on).

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Top Ten Relationship Tips

Relationships can be tricky. They require a deep level of commitment, a lot of patience, a lot of time, and more compromise than we think. We see a lot of relationships fail; some seem doomed from the start, some seem perfect and then all of a sudden fall apart. Relationships also have to start right, be sustained, and last, which means you can never rest easy and stop making an effort. Relationships are almost like day jobs. And since each relationship is different, there are no secret recipes that make lasting relationships.

There are, however, some tips that wouldn't hurt and can actually help raise the chances of your relationship surviving the odds.

1. Communication is key.

This is the golden rule in relationships. You don't have to be in touch in your every waking hour, but do take time each evening to talk about your day. Never be afraid of saying what's exactly on your mind; if you can't tell your partner those intimate and honest truths, who else can you tell?

2. Friendship is important.

Romance will always have its downtimes. We can't all be romantic and charming 24/7 after all. In a lot of cases, it's these romance downtimes that start to disappoint people. It's when the prince charming or the mysterious romantic girl falls from the pedestal. It always helps if you've got friendship underneath the romance that can sustain the relationship during these hard times.

3. Laughing is love.

Laughing together is always a bonding moment, no matter how vague the reason is, no matter how fleeting that moment was. Partners should be able to make each other laugh, even in the dullest of circumstances.

4. Acceptance is a must.

You have to accept the person you're with. Some bad habits do need changing, but don't try to change who the person is. If you try to change all the bad things, you might end up with a different person and lose all the good things too.

5. Appearances are unnecessary.

If you are looking for a serious relationship, say goodbye to appearances. Don't put up appearances at any point. A lot of people do this during the first few months of the relationship. Then when things start to get comfortable, the appearances drop, and the disappointment and resentment sets in.

6. Listening is the solution.

Here's a common problem in relationships: she talks too much, he doesn't listen. The solution here is to listen, as closely as you can. Listening closely will lessen all her reasons to nag repeatedly. If you get what she said the first time, she wouldn't have to repeat it. That goes both ways too.

7. Individuality should be maintained.

In today's world where men and women's places in society are becoming equal, it is important for two partners to maintain their sense of individuality separate from the relationship. Both partners should hold a high regard for themselves as individuals. If you are satisfied with yourself, your rate of satisfaction in terms of other people and other situations also increases.

8. Mutuality should be in attendance.

Despite keeping individual lives, partners should also be able to switch to "mutual" mode easily. This mutual mode is definitely necessary to nurture the connection that couples find in each other the first time they meet.

9. Money is the root of all evil.

Once you start talking about money, you can expect a lot of arguments to rise up. Dealing with finances individually is a form of maintaining individuality, and it is necessary especially when you are not on the way to the aisle. Sooner or later, the money talk will come up, but don't push it. And when it does come up, draw a middle line. Discuss large purchases and investments, but don't control each other's spending.

10. Vision is the way to success.

If you think that a relationship is not going anywhere, it really won't. Always have goals in the relationship, so you're both motivated to get to that point where you'll share a mutual happiness that you've both always wanted. A relationship with no vision will most likely become a relationship with no future.

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